Mom's nearing the end of the road

[Gonzo]

Looks like my Mom's time is nearly run out. Lately she's been shuttling between the hospital and the convalescent home.

Talked to my sister last night and she told me her heart has a plugged valve and her liver is just not working.

Mom's 90 now and until a month ago was very active. She's still completely alert and aware. Her brain is still in top condition, but her body is wearing out.

All of this was precipitated by a fall at home that gave her a cut on the back of the head that needed stitches, but no broken bones. She has had a continual problem with fluid building up in the lungs. We don't know which caused which in this incident.

We're trying to arrange home care. Mom would like to be home and not in some impersonal place.

I have two other sisters, one of which is coming in from FL at the end of this month. Trying to contact the other one in WA.

[SupraSabre]

Gonzo,

Sorry to hear about your mom. I don't care what age they are, it is always difficult when they have to go through these type of things. All we can hope for is that they are as comfortable as possible.

She (and your family) will be added to my prayer list! :pray1:

[motomac]

Gonzo, your Mom has been added to my prayer list.

[gnorts]

My heart goes out to you, G. My dad made it to 92, and he was mentally sharp right to the end. His body just wouldn't support him any more. He had a fall too, and that was the end of his living alone. He went to a nice nursing home (if there is such a thing) and lasted less than a year from the time he was still living on his own. He had all his faculties, and he wasn't a happy guy toward the end. That made it harder on his loved ones and caregivers. It will not be an easy time for your mom, nor for you and your family. But you just gotta get through it. You're a good son.

Sometimes I think it's easier when an elderly person loses their marbles. Less awareness of the body giving out may be a blessing.

Pop has been gone for almost six years. I still miss him every day.

[Gug]

Gonzo,

Sorry to hear about your Mom. I'll say a prayer.

[st1300r]

I'm so sorry to hear that. Adding another prayer here.

[tdeboeser]

She'll be in my prayers also...

Tom de

[Mellow]

Very sorry to hear this friend. You and your family are in our prayers.

[gregj]

Gonzo, so sorry to hear about this. Prayers are on the way .....

[sirepair]

Gonzo,
Prayers sent to you and yours. Be strong and cherish the times you've had.

[EJ's 97ST]

Soooo sorry to here gonzo, S & I will send prayers to you and family and mom.

Ed & Sharon

[John Anthony]

Gonzo,

Sorry to hear the news. We'll keep you, your mom, and family in our prayers.

John

[HankSTer]

Gonzo,
Hoping for all the Best possible. My folks are at those age's also, and their wishes are the same, to be at home as long as they can.

Take Care of yourself too, these are difficult times.

Regards,

[Papa Bear]

My thoughts are also with you and your family at this time Gonzo.

PB

[sttourer]

Thoughts and prayers sent your way.

Pat

[BigTom]

Gonzo

My prayers and empathy for you. My cycle with my mother is just really starting, hospital, re hab hospital, home. My father is full time in the althzeimers ward. I share your stress and pain.

If you want to PM me, feel free...

[hojo in sc]

My prayers are with you and your family, I'm sure this a very emotional time for everyone.

[ChipSTer]

:pray1: for you and yours... I know they'll help...
:cool:

[Raven]

+1 Thoughts and prayers for you and yours.

[Elmo]

Thoughts and prayers headed your way, Gonzo.



Elmo

[Gonzo]

Many thanx to all of you. This is one of the things that makes this forum so great.

:1st:

gonzo

[Sink]

Gonzo,

My thoughts and prayers are with you, your mother and the family. It's so hard to see your parents fail. They are the strength for us for many years. Having them fail is very hard to watch. Stay strong and be there for your mother. Make sure you get everything said that you have to say. No regrets when they are gone and always remember that you were there for them like they were there for you. We are all born terminal. Some more terminal than others. Life is fragile. It sounds like she has had a very good and long life. Make this part of her life as easy as you can. They always live on in ours hearts and memories!

[carrotzilla]

Thoughts and prayers G.

[Gonzo]

Update.
Mom's been moved back home, where she's much more comfortable. Her insurance provided a hospital bed and a wheelchair, plus 24 hour care. She has oxygen if she needs it.

One of my sisters has been running things around the house for her for the past several days. Another one of my sisters is coming in from FL next week to spend a week with her.

I will be building a ramp for the front steps in the next 2 weeks.

So right now she is stable and home. The doctors say she has a plugged heart valve but she wouldn't be able to survive surgery.

All your support is very much appreciated.
gonzo

[motomac]

Well, she is probably more comfortable at home. It is good your Sister's can pitch in to help, and you can build a ramp. I will keep her on my prayer list. Thanks for keeping us informed.

[Finewest]

My thoughts of sympathy to you and your family in this time...

[Tom B.]

Unbelievable!:(

Sorry to read about your mothers failing health! May God bless her and your family with strength and mercy!! I'll be praying for you all!

This is heart felt as I'm watching my Dad fail rather rapidly as well.

:pray1: :pray1: :pray1: sent out!

[Gonzo]

I just heard that my mom has passed away peacefully after falling asleep. Funeral pending.

Thanks to everyone here for all the support.
gonzo

[Mellow]

Sorry my friend, here's some more prayers to you and your family.

[Tom B.]

Unbelievable:( .

You and your family have my deepest sympathies! May God grant you strength, mercy and peace during this difficult time!:pray1: :pray1: :pray1:
I'll be there at the funeral in spirit if that is any help!

[UNTMatt]

Prayers out to you and your family.

[John Anthony]

My prayers go out to your and your sisters.

John

[johnSTamela]

My deepest sympathies. On the bright side, she was home and went peacefully.

[motomac]

My condolances Gonzo.

[Papa Bear]

You most definitely have my condolences too Gonzo.

Papa Bear.

[Austin city limits]

This was the hardest thread of any to read as it brought back still open wounds on me... I have lost my mom just a short while ago and know what this feels like... Not good... :(

Prayers are with you and family...

[drrod]

Gonzo,
My sympathies to you and your family.
Rod

[STill Fiddlin]

Sorry for your loss Gonzo.

[BigTom]

My sympathy, my friend.

[ToroGuy]

Gonzo, prayers for peace and healing for you and your family. No matter the circumstances, this is never an easy time.

[Gonzo]

We heard just this morning, another loss. Another mother in the family, one of our generation, went to sleep yesterday and passed on. No details.

[EJ's 97ST]

I just heard that my mom has passed away peacefully after falling asleep. Funeral pending.

Thanks to everyone here for all the support.
gonzo

Soooo sorry to hear gonzo. More Thoughts and prayers sent your way.
RIP for your mom.

Ed & Sharon

[Tom B.]

Unbelievable!:(

This last update is sad indeed. Continued prayers from me!!!:pray1: :pray1: :pray1:

[Gonzo]

Funeral is this Tuesday for Mom. The other funeral is Thursday for the other mother. Busy week.

[alphafang]

My thoughts and sympathies are with you and yours Gonzo,
Be strong mate.
Paul

[Finewest]

My deepest sympathies to you and your family Gonzo...

[G-MAN]

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Remember the good times. It helps. BTW - She will always be with you. I know my mom and pop are still with me and its been 39 years.

[Tom B.]

Unbelievable!

Continuing with prayers for all involved!!!:pray1: :pray1: :pray1:

You have my deepest sympathy too!!

[uptoblackwood]

Sorry Gonzo...best thoughts to you and your family.

Forest

[Sink]

Gonzo,
Sorry this is so late.... Godspeed to the Mothers involved.

[sirepair]

Gonzo,
Our thoughts and prayers for you and your families continue. I know today had to be a rough one. Take comfort in knowing that she is resting, and that you will always have her in you heart.