Given the title of his video, we now need to go thru his older videos and see how he grabs the throttle.
Learning to drive Tractor Trailer in the 70s my instructor said hold 13 speed gearshift like an egg or you could use 3 fingers. If it took more pressure than that your timing was off.
One of the most common errors riders are guilty of is "leaning" on the handlebars. When you do this, particularly in corners, you loose much of the feel and feedback the front is giving you, and your corner might not feel as smooth as you'd like. It also upsets the bike, if you "move around" in the seat using arms to help you move. Some riders have a nasty habit of relying on the handlebar for "support" when moving in the seat (preparing for a corner, and coming back out of a corner). Use your core, your thigh muscles, and foot position on your pegs to move. You'll have more stable and consistent lines in the corners, and you'll get a better sense of the feedback the bike is giving you.Always learned to support the torso with your muscles and direct the ST with like "only two fingers on the bar"...
Adding that was an accident, but yes, my present stand is that bent, it's not the pivot. I have a straight replacement.Not sure why you attached a picture of a 1100 kickstand, but to my eye this particular one may be attached to a moderately/severely worn pivot point..