Mondo
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My deepest sympathies, John. Lost my bride 3 1/2 years ago and it still seems like yesterday. Take care, my friend.
Greg
Greg
Prayers Requested (Beloved Wife’s Death)
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So sorry to hear of your loss John.
Pete
Pete
Heartfelt condolences and sympathies for your loss.
Oh, John - that is sad. I didn’t see your first post, so I’m glad that you shared it again.
The ‘firsts’ are hard to deal with and are emotional floodgates. For me - I lost my partner before our youngest son had reached his first birthday - I wanted the feelings to just go away. The tear jerking moments, which were uncontrollable and many times a day events, thankfully diminished after a few months - I became better at dealing with them, but they never disappeared completely. I am quite pleased about that because now, every so often, without warning, something will happen that brings her back - the love, the fun times, the little habits, the annoying traits. Sad, happy, really vivid memories.
“Hi Susie, you’re still with me then ?”
Heartfelt condolences John.
The ‘firsts’ are hard to deal with and are emotional floodgates. For me - I lost my partner before our youngest son had reached his first birthday - I wanted the feelings to just go away. The tear jerking moments, which were uncontrollable and many times a day events, thankfully diminished after a few months - I became better at dealing with them, but they never disappeared completely. I am quite pleased about that because now, every so often, without warning, something will happen that brings her back - the love, the fun times, the little habits, the annoying traits. Sad, happy, really vivid memories.
“Hi Susie, you’re still with me then ?”
Heartfelt condolences John.
irunamok
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I hope you can find peace in memories of your life together. I believe she is a part of you. She changed you in ways only you can know but those changes are the bits of her that will always be with you. I hope you are blessed this Christmas season with comfort and fond memories.
Well said!! Warmest wishes to you and your family John. /r Brad
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss John. Praying for peace and comfort for you that only The Lord can provide.
Sadlsor
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Don't see how I missed this till now.
Grief in some manner, is one thing that we all have in common, or will at some point.
Praying for strength and the lifting of your spirit.
As was said, I expect we never truly get over losing a loved one, but somehow learn to deal with it in our own way.
Grief in some manner, is one thing that we all have in common, or will at some point.
Praying for strength and the lifting of your spirit.
As was said, I expect we never truly get over losing a loved one, but somehow learn to deal with it in our own way.
ChriSTian_64
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Sorry to hear that John...
Hang on.
Hang on.
I offer this as a hope for you, John. Maybe something you'll experience at some time.
When my mother died, I was devastated as you would imagine. Some time later, I was driving down the road and something came to mind that I would've normally shared with her. But she wasn't there of course. I would never be able to share those things as we had shared in years past.
And then a very different feeling came over me. It wasn't like my mother was gone forever. What came to my mind was a hallway at one of these large hotel convention centers. Off to the sides, were the conference rooms. As I came up on the next room, the door to the conference room was closed. I knew this was the room she was in and I could hear sounds of joy and laughter and people singing on the other side of the door.
Then I got this feeling was that the door was closed to me for now. It wasn't my time to enter into that room, but it would be some day. It wasn't a feeling anymore of loss as it was before. Just a calmness. Yes, my mom was not here for me to share my life with, but that time apart would be only temporary.
And then the door would open for me too, and I would join those within the room.
Chris
When my mother died, I was devastated as you would imagine. Some time later, I was driving down the road and something came to mind that I would've normally shared with her. But she wasn't there of course. I would never be able to share those things as we had shared in years past.
And then a very different feeling came over me. It wasn't like my mother was gone forever. What came to my mind was a hallway at one of these large hotel convention centers. Off to the sides, were the conference rooms. As I came up on the next room, the door to the conference room was closed. I knew this was the room she was in and I could hear sounds of joy and laughter and people singing on the other side of the door.
Then I got this feeling was that the door was closed to me for now. It wasn't my time to enter into that room, but it would be some day. It wasn't a feeling anymore of loss as it was before. Just a calmness. Yes, my mom was not here for me to share my life with, but that time apart would be only temporary.
And then the door would open for me too, and I would join those within the room.
Chris
SteveST1300
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So sorry John I just checked in here and saw this my heart goes out to you