Anyhow, the point being electrical issues can be tricky, and these relays both didn't just die one day, so there was some warning. Luckily I had a 4 pin relay that will work until I get a 5 pin replacement for my setup, and the bike works perfectly again. I also refreshed my memory on the design of the bypass mod and will carry another relay as a spare, but I realized a simple piece of wire as a bypass for the relay would get me home in a pinch. On the bright side, it was good practice for diagnosing electrical issues, and I figured I'd share my experience in case anyone runs into something similar. At least I confirmed all the work I did for the bypass was working properly, so that was cool.
My bike shows no signs of any issue with the red wire needing attention, but I do like the peace of mind and it was a fun project.